Dr. Ben Culhane


The question is not whether you are in a relationship, but what kind of relationship are you in?

You feel so different from how you felt in the beginning. You avoid conversations because they seem to end in conflict and feeling even more disconnected. Getting angry and arguing about your relationship or shutting down seems to happen often. Feeling unappreciated, attacked, unimportant--like no matter what you do, it just isn't good enough.

We all struggle in our relationships sometimes. My partner and I have struggled in our own relationship and learned to come though the other side more deeply connected. If you want to communicate better, connect deeper and have more fun in your relationship, you're in the right place.

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need, rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom.

When you learn to  uncover and share the unmet needs, the two of you start to have a different conversation. Learn the tools and strategies that you can start using right away and shift your interaction from frustrated and misunderstood to connected and heard.

I help each partner learn to communicate, to heal what hurts and and to grow together. Then guide you to the next level in your relationship. What's the next level?  


  • Feeling whole AND connected

  • Mastering masculine and feminine attraction

  • Deepening your intimacy

  • Keeping your heart open

  • Co-creating love

  • Sharing your truth with gratitude

  • "Response-availability" for your partner

  • Honoring each other

This kind of connection with each other is powerful... it's loving and playful! You can have this!

Whether you’re an individual, a family looking for help, or a straight or LGBTQ couple - regardless of your personal values or beliefs - you will be regarded with compassion and acceptance. My therapy sessions are designed to strengthen your confidence, increase your relational and emotional intelligence, help you practice valuable skills and assist you in the healing process. Take a look at my services, and allow me to invite you into my office in Newport Beach.

A Healthier, Happier You

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”

 ― David Richo

Create Connection

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”


―Tom Robbins



Get Over Your Past

"The best way out is always through."

―Robert Frost

Circle of Men

It takes enormous courage for a man to sit with other men and share the issues in his life and work to change them.

© 2018 by Ben Culhane, Psy.D. 

Marriage & Couples counseling for adults who are struggling in relationship and love, looking to go deeper in connection and communication located in Newport Beach, California | serving the surrounding irvine, san diego, los angeles, laguna beach, newport beach, mission viejo, rancho santa margarita, costa mesa,and huntington beach